Be KIND to yourself

The following is a lesson I learned (and am still learning) from Kenny
Werner's book 'Effortless Mastery':


BE KIND TO YOURSELF!


As musicians we have created a culture of competition. Everyone is out there trying to be better than the next guy. This causes us to hate ourselves, and good music in general, because every time we hear incredible music by a talented musician we start making excuses for our own lack of ability. We end up harbouring resentment for the musician who is better than us, and get down on ourselves for not being better.


The TRUTH is this... There will always be someone 'better' than you... And MUSIC is not going to stop if you get upset with it... BUT there will always be enough music to go around for all of us to play and enjoy it.


The SOLUTION... Be KIND to yourself.


In other words, accept that where you are in your development is not a bad place, just another point in a long journey. Be THANKFUL for the giftings of others. Make a decision to learn from them. Remember that they didn't get there through luck. Hard work did it for them and will also do it for you.


The moment you learn this lesson you will free yourself from the burden of competition, and start to build relationships with the musicians who you now respect. And as I have said in this blog before, if music is about anything, it's about COMMUNITY.


The fine print: This only works if you are working at developing your own abilities. If you are not, you cannot learn to be kind to yourself because your problem is laziness and a lack of love for music.